“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”
― Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere’s Fan
I don’t understand why people choose to lead miserable lives. No, I am not undermining your struggle or your pain or whatever tough situation you’ve been in, neither am I asking you to laugh and dance all the time and be immune to pain. I am simply asking why people CHOOSE to ignore everything good in their lives and focus on everything bad? It is just something I can’t wrap my masoom sa brain around.
I refuse to believe that people cannot (or will not) find ONE thing everyday that they are thankful for. That’s it.. that’s ALL you need. One good thing, one genuine smile. It doesn’t even have to be something that happened to you. Even a stranger on the road can make a difference! You just have to stop licking your wounds and look around. (Seriously, stahp it..gross!)
For some, it is not even a phase! Day in, day out they just whine and complain about anything and everything that is wrong with their lives, or people around them or the world in general. How in the world do people live such stressed lives.. seriously H.O.W.? Them qanootis!
You say you have problems.. NEWS FLASH.. everyone does *surprise surprise* Yeah yeah yeah I know. Life is hard, the world is an awful place to live in, everything is wrong left right center.. you have alot of issues etc etc but those are just the symptoms that you keep repeating what is your solution? Whine? Complain? Ask for advice? Make yourself busy and live in denial? Or you just settle for a stressed and unhappy life? Or do something about it that will actually be beneficial?
Don’t you ever wonder why though? Just sit and calmly reflect on your situation? Why you are where you are and what you are going to do about it?
From where I stand everything seems quite simple. If you find yourself in a tough situation:
1. It is a trial from Allah Ta’ala AND “Verily there is ease after hardship ~ Quran 94:5-6“, or;
2. It’s you! All your wrong and stupid decisions have gotten you into some fuzool mess. Or worse you are creating or exaggerating a situation when it’s not so bad to begin with.
If it is the first case, why the need to complain? What do you do instead? Sabr. Tawakkul. Shukr. Why? Because Allah never promised an easy life but He is promising you ease AFTER hardship. You’ll get there when the time is right, just be patient and trust Him and His plans.
If it is the second case, dude, it is your own fault then why complain? Accept your mistakes, face the consequences of YOUR decisions/actions, learn from them and move on. TURN to Allah. Ask Him for help. Why? Because “And whosoever is conscious of Allah, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him ~ Quran: 65:2-3.” Oh and it happens! I speak from experience.
One of my most favorite teacher used to say ask yourselves WHY? In every decision that you make always ask yourself “Why am I doing this?”, and if you can come up with a satisfactory answer then go ahead with it but if you can’t, and you’ll know you can’t, then it’s just plain kachra! Throw it away go back and start again because you are doing something wrong somewhere.
There are people out there in far worse situations than you are and they have lost much more than you ever will but God knows they are more grateful and thankful. They find happiness in whatever little they have. What’s your excuse, really?